Stress is..when you lose track of time.


Time is like water-running away. But remember, you do not have infinite amount. Use your time well.

Try to decide what your priorities are

Stress is.. negative if you forget what is important in your life.

Ask yourself questions like those: Which are my priorities today? What is most important to me? Were did my journey start? Where am I going from here?

This week´s stress advice


Stress is.. sometimes good for you but your reactions to the stress load can be to negative.

Are you the type of person that always has to do everything perfect and keep things in order. Try to do only 50%. Sometimes 30% is better than nothing and 70% is most often good enough.
Relax! You don´t have to be perfect. Just 30-70%.

This week´s advice on stress: Do your best. It is enough!

What is it with you womenfolk?

A good friend of mine, strong and capable young professional woman, working with high level disaster management and writing her scientific thesis, once told me:
"I was relived when I realized that I do not have to be perfect. I am human. I make mistakes. I forget. I get tired and weak. Still life goes on and I do my best."

Stress advice of the week from the Stress-Academy

Did you know that you have negative thoughts that are partly subconscious and influence your life. 

"I can't manage this". "Why do I always have to take the wrong decisions"? "How come everyone knows this but me"? "I always have bad luck". "How stupid of me"!

Or worse: "I am a failure".

Sometimes when the stress load is to heavy or longstanding  the thought content gets too sad and pessimistic. Be aware of this. 

Start today with a new method. Turn on a radar in your head for identification of negative thoughts.

This week stress advice:  Take a look at your ways to cope with stress. 

Some people are thought to do better than others fighting the stress. Maybe that is true and we can admire those who SEEM to do be able to manage everything without greater efforts. I hate to shatter your believes but the human being is really programed in a simple way in coping with stress. Do not misunderstand. The biological and psychological response are immensely complex but the output, our response, is most often the same. We subconsciously try to protect us by saying things like: "I'll do that tomorrow" or "My wife dose nothing to improve our marriage". 

A coworker aways had the standard reply to every problem that came up at work: "It is awful how badly the directorate is handling this plan". But others noted that he hardly ever came up with solutions on his own.

All these thoughts are automatic and serve the purpose to sooth our mind for a spell in a difficult or stressful situations but can in the long run lead to unchanged habits and unsolved problems if we are not able to start reacting and look for solutions.

Be more aware of what are your habits or usual reactions when you are coping with stress. Are your methods fruitful? 

Don't try to change the world. Start with yourself and improve your own reactions to stress. Good luck!

The stress advice of this week: Beware of that the factors that stress you most, are not always obvious. 


Don't kid yourself by trying to convince you and others that you simply don't have enough time in your live. That is an oversimplification that won't help you a bit. Feeling overstressed and inadequate with not enough solutions, you are at risk using a well known automatic response to protect you. Most likely you will fill your mind with sentences like I don't have time for this or I have so much to do. Then you fight on trying to keep up with daily tasks, shoveling the same sand over again and again. Instead you should try to identify the factors in your life today that stress you most. These could be tasks at work, worries, thoughts or dreams. It is important to identify them to be able to face them, respond to them and look for solutions instead of hiding behind the thought: I don't  have enough time.  These stress-factors are not always obvious and sometimes they are not difficult to solve and often they are important and positive for our live. Take an example. Raising a teenager some would say can by a stressful task. We are not supposed to think of a task like that as negative or stress related but it is difficult and complicated and deserves all you strength and skills as a parent. Let's say you are a director in a developing company and the projects at work are constantly on your mind and when something goes wrong at home you have a tendency to surrender from home to work, telling your self you have no time and fill your head with work related issues and relations at home are sure to get worse and your teenager would benefit much more from a different approach that could sound like this in your mind: I have much to do but this week one of the most important stress factors in my life is my relation to the teenager in the family. How could I use my skills and experience to cope better with this task, what should I plan, what support could I get.

So start out with this new method fighting the stress in your life by asking yourself: Which are the most important stress factor in my life today.
Be an analyst! Good luck.